Last Sunday (Tools for a Superb Marriage – Week 1), we talked a little about the book Love Life for Every Married Couple by Dr. Ed Wheat and Gloria Okes Perkins. Each Sunday, I’m taking one of the books on the table from The Power – A Tablescape and discussing how the book impacted me and our marriage.
Thanks to all of you who commented last week. I love learning a little about your life and hearing your stories.
The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian came to our marriage many years into it. Of course, I’d prayed for my husband, but I lacked imagination and depth in it. I’ve shared my inability at the spoken word before, and my prayers lean towards stumble-along phrases.
If I could meet Stormie Omartian, I’d give her a huge hug! She gave me the words to pray – words that were in my heart but couldn’t get out of my mouth. The Holy Spirit makes up for my lack, of course, but somehow Stormie’s words are beautiful to me and create my own heartfelt prayers of substance. As I read each section, the prayers become my words.
During the “we have active kids” years of our marriage, we were a busy family, of course. HH coached this team or taught that class of kids (at church), so off-hours were spent as a family.
HH had friends but only at the office since those were the men he spent the most hours with while working. He had few male Christian friends. I started praying daily for God to bring him close male Christian friendships. Stormie helped me do it. She helped me look deeper into all areas of a man’s life as she described each area for me to pray:
his spiritual walk
his emotions (horrors…they hate to talk about that)
his role as a father
his role as leader and decision-maker at home and work
his security in his employment and finances
his health and physical protection
his faith and his future.
Stormie’s chapter about his purpose captures all of the elements above. She helps us pray for our husbands to be living and active in God’s will and fulfilling God’s purpose for their lives.
Praying for my husband deepened my love for him (as well as the Lord). It helped me realize more of what his days are like, the inner and outer battles he faces, and how Satan can attack our marriage in so many areas.
When looking at his priorities, Stormie says to look at our own. If we expect our husband to place us as second in line behind God, we need to place our husband second in priority, as well. That’s before children, friends, activities, our time…. Uh! That’s hard, isn’t it? The truth hurts, but we need to hear it.
So, what happened with my prayers for HH’s friendships? God opened the flood-waters. Within only a couple of months, HH was part of a group of 150 (yes, I said 150!) of the finest group of Christian men to share and pray with on a regular basis. Wow!
That’s just one example of how God answered one type of prayer. There are many others. You don’t have to have a book to pray for your husband, but I’m just saying how much Stormie’s words helped me. Her book is a tool God provided to help me with prayer (which helped our marriage), and I’m so thankful.
I’m heading to church this morning – are you? Let’s worship and praise our Father on this spectacular Sunday!