Tools for a Superb Marriage – Week 1

HH and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary in early December.  No cheering – it’s all by the grace of God!

God’s been in our marriage all along and was actually in both of our lives before marriage.  Together, under His divine leadership (and patience!), we have been guided:

through the twists and turns, to love and to cherish, to have and to hold,

in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish, for richer, for poorer,

for better, for worse, to love and to cherish….

I think you get the point.  We learned to not only love and cherish each other, but to love and cherish our heavenly Father.

No mate can fill your soul like the Lord does – completely and perfectly.

I say that because it’s true.  The Lord is the leader of our home, whether we’re married or not.   If you’re not married, He fills the mate role in your life.

After publishing The Power – A Tablescape last Wednesday, I felt God leading me to share the books and useful tools God provided to help us (me, the book-reader) along our way.

The Power to Bless

OK, maybe I’ll go ahead and admit here that I, the most stubborn one, needed the most help.  :-/

The book I quoted during the tablescape post is Love Life For Every Married Couple  by Ed Wheat, MD, and Gloria Okes Perkins.  Even with the 1980 publish date, it’s packed full of valuable advice.

The Power of Prayer

My pink highlights mark the “Prescription for a Superb Marriage” chapter more than any other.  Dr. Wheat speaks of edifying…it begins in our thought life.

If there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these things.  (Philippians 4:8 NASB)

As a young bride, I learned that I could dwell on the things HH wasn’t  doing (a wrong focus) and be miserably unhappy.  When I changed my focus to the good things, I became much happier. (Trust me, so did he!)

Love Life for Every Married Couple

Love Life for Every Married Couple by Ed Wheat, MD, and Gloria Oaks Perkins

Your mate has a lot of great qualities to edify when you pay attention.  Turn your mind away from the little things that irritate.  Life’s too short to dwell on those.

Focusing on the good things gives us the thankfulness to draw from for blessing our mate.  Remember the topic of the tablescape post, the power of speaking well of and to?

Speaking Well Of and To

In June of 2013, I published four Sundays of posts about marriage.  The wrap-up post was Marriage Inventory, which followed three video posts of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs discussing the powerful tools in his marriage-altering book, Love and Respect.   Here are the links to those posts:

Week 1 of Marriage Series – Love and Respect

Week 2 of Marriage Series – Love and Respect

Week 3 of Marriage Series – Love and Respect

With Valentine’s Day coming up in a few weeks, I thought it appropriate to focus on marriage relationships for the next few Sundays.  Anything we can do to help each other, right?

I’ll discuss valuable information gleaned from the other books on the table of the tablescape post – little nuggets of wisdom that I need reminding of myself.

What gifts has the Lord sent your way to build your marriage?

Happy spectacular Sunday, y’all!







  1. Cheryl says

    I couldn’t agree with you more! My husband and I are starting on our 49th year together. We have been through many bumps and trials….and many, many happy times. But if we hadn’t had the Lord first in our lives and our marriage there were times that each of us would have given up. I can’t describe all the blessings we have now because we are a Christ-centered couple. God bless you and everyone who reads your words on maintaining a successful and happy marriage. It is worth the work!

    • says

      Thank you, Cheryl. Congratulations! 49 years is a marriage of success, for sure. Thanks for sharing with us. You are so right…bumps along the way but definitely worth the work. 🙂

  2. Robin says

    We just made TWO years in mid December. But we are not NEW to marriage itself. We both were married before, for many years, each to people who had “issues” (I am being NICE here.LOL) WE tried to make it work with them, but they didn’t wanna try. They wanted to leave…so who were we to stop them?! THANK GOD WE DID!!!! 🙂 🙂

    My husband said,”You don’t just marry a person, you marry their history.” …which means ALL their “issues”. Some people hide those issues REALLY well before marriage!


    • says

      You’ve made many good points here, Robin. Experience is a hard lesson, and you both seam to have taken those things seriously for change. I wish you many years of happiness…God will provide since He’s in your marriage. 🙂