Through several avenues, God brought me to consider loss and desire this week.
Every single one of us has suffered loss, or losses. As we go through life, we grieve over losses of lives, relationships, and sometimes we grieve over loss of things, opportunities, dreams. Homes are lost, we lose employment, a diagnosis halts us, and on and on it goes. It’s called life, and sometimes it just plain stinks.
Maybe you’ve recently suffered a loss. Your life is now different.
After a loss, the only thing we desire is for things to be as they were before the loss. The one thing we now have to accept is the one, and pretty much only, thing we desire. It’s that.
Do you find it hard to desire anything different than what you lost? Desiring something new speaks of hope, a future…
Since you can no longer have that, can you name a desire of your heart other than what you lost?
To navigate our way to desiring again, let’s look at the process.
First, we suffer loss. Healing comes next, but in order to heal, we must allow time to grieve the loss. There’s a lot of pain there, many tears, some anger, some regret, and long-suffering.
Loss brings change in our circumstances. To come to terms with our suddenly different life, we wallow in sorrow, and that’s OK and necessary – for a time. It’s part of the process. Here’s the thing that I’ve found.
To find healing, we must involve the Lord in our grief.
That means telling Him about your pain, crying to Him, sharing your feelings with Him. He knows us. He knows our pain already, but sharing it with him one-on-one brings a release – to us.
Peace. Healing. Balm.
The getting through grief to healing boils down to one thing: Look to the Lord. He is our salve.
In our grief, we must learn to worship again – tearfully, painfully, turning our eyes to Him.
It takes time and healing to regain hope. Jesus brings us back from the depths of loss and sadness. Abiding with Him brings healing. He is our Hope.
Hope speaks of the future, of looking to what’s ahead.
Hope isn’t a word associated with the past, so stop looking there!
While I’d not yet finished wrapping my head around the conglomerate of passages from this week, a dear friend emailed me. She shared the Psalm 37:4 verse and some definitions of delight.
Delight (a summary)
synonyms: please greatly, charm, enchant, captivate, entrance, thrill; More
gladden, gratify, appeal to; take pleasure in, revel in, luxuriate in, wallow in, glory in; More
adore, love, relish, savor, lap up; entertain, amuse, divert.
When I abide in the Lord, He captivates me, He pleases me greatly, charms me, and is enchanting. Abiding and delight in the Lord go hand in hand.
Ironically, the circle in this image represents to me the circle of loss, healing, hope, desire – in life and for life.
When we abide and delight in the Lord, he brings us from loss through healing to hope. Once we can hope, we consider desire once again. When delighting in Him, we find that the desires of our heart have more to do with Him than things of this earth. We desire His glory in all things. We desire His will for our life…to have the life He provides and contentment in it.
He’s all in it, in every part of the circle – if we include Him – and He brings life again.
Have you come full circle from your loss? You’ll live to desire again…just turn your eyes to Jesus every day.
Let’s Praise Him on this spectacular Sunday!