Yep. It’s you. The supportive, Godly woman behind your strong, Godly man…is you. For the sake of your marriage, it better be you.
We don’t support our man because he deserves it at every moment in time (but he very likely does deserve it). Even if we feel he never deserves it, we should support him because God told us to. We were created for it. There’s a pro-woman movement out there that’s likely to disagree.
Case in point: during this past week’s Olympic events when a volley-ball player said she was made for having babies and playing volley ball, this particular group reacted negatively. It was as if the athlete said her life was only about those two things and that birthing babies was one of only two reasons she exists. But that’s not what she said.
Like all of us, she has many roles in life. If someone enjoys having babies and playing volleyball more than anything else in their life, that’s OK. There’s nothing wrong with expressing how much those things bring us happiness and joy! I’m happy for her, aren’t you?
Would this group react the same way if the athlete said she was made for marriage to her husband? Probably. (I appreciate the protection of our rights, but prohibiting us from speaking our minds isn’t protection.) No matter what we enjoy in life, second place in the Christian woman’s priority list is her husband – second to God.
In the role of supporting and affirming our man, we are pleasing God. We’re fulfilling the purpose of our very creation.
Your husband isn’t perfect, but God gave him many good qualities. Surely you can find something good to encourage him over. We could all make a long list of things we think he does wrong (and they of us…trust me). But why point out the negative? Don’t!
Why have I written so many posts about marriage? Because I think we need to be more intentional in this area. Every day. And, I think sometimes we forget to zip our mouths. We need regular reminders.
Before you get the idea that maybe I think I’m Wonder-Wife, let me say I’m the number one audience to what God’s saying here. It’s a constant temptation for me to open my mouth and let those darts fly!
Have you encouraged your guy lately? Here’s a starter list for us all.
I love you.
You’re a great husband and father.
You’re the best leader for our family.
I admire you.
Thank you for marrying me.
I believe in you.
I trust you.
You’re so good at that!
I’m so glad I married you…smartest decision I ever made.
When we affirm our man, we’re being a help to him. We’re fulfilling one of God’s great purposes for our life. So, be that woman. Be the Godly woman behind your man.
More next week…