Do you love it when someone recognizes and acknowledges something good you did? Not in a big, celebratory way like we heard in last week’s post about “Others-Centered” Living. I’m talking about a small comment of approval – a pat on the back.
We should edify others and look for good in people – ways to build them up, not tear them down.
Too often, we look to the negative and hone in on that. Is that really our job? To criticize and lay blame? Of course not.
We think it’s their fault. We blame them. We tell them where they went wrong – what caused their problem. We even tell them how to fix their problem! Sometimes problems arise from poor decisions, but things do happen that aren’t necessarily their fault. And besides, who made us Queen and asked us to fix them (and their problems)?
When dealing with family members or friends, do you take on the responsibility of “helping” them fix their lives? What if it has nothing at all to do with you? (Here’s the kicker: Most times, it doesn’t.)
It actually comes down to God’s will. He is our Grand Fixer, and everything that happens is allowed by God.
Your husband loses his job.
Your child has no friends.
Your mother can’t seem to stay healthy.
Your brother has a problem staying married.
Your sister has a good life but is lonely.
Your friend wants a baby but can’t seem to get pregnant.
The list goes on….
Why do we want to fix everything? At the very least, we think we should advise others on how they should live so these things don’t happen. Right?
Let’s look at it from God’s perspective.
At the root of it all,
He wants us to have a relationship with Him.
Him…the Almighty God!
He’s constantly drawing us to Himself…
drawing us in…
even using hard situations to cause us to look up.
Sometimes things happen. It’s life.
As hard as it is to see sometimes, God allows the hard stuff – just as much as he allows the good stuff. All of it. Good and bad. All the time. And, He has His purpose in it.
If we’re constantly trying to bail our family and friends out of trouble, where’s God in all that? Did He tell you to “fix” them? Did He tell you to bail them out? Did you ask Him?
We should ask God what to do. And then do as He leads. Sometimes God allows people to be in a certain place (sometimes a very hard place!) so they’ll feel enough despair to seek Him. Let’s step aside and get out of His way!
God uses hard times to morph us into who He wants us to be.
Think of the butterfly and how it changes over time. There are many more aspects and layers to what I’m saying, so please hear my heart here.
Yes, we should help people. Yes! As long as it’s under God’s direction, we don’t stand in His way. It’s His will, remember? Not ours.
Pray for them.
Stand with them.
Don’t abandon them.
Be their support.
That’s what we as God’s people should do while waiting for God to work in our midst.
Whew, this has been a little heavy today. I want to encourage you to praise God in the hard stuff. Yes, it’s hard not to intervene sometimes, and yes, we can praise God for what He is about to do. He is working! And, we can be part of that. Hallelujah!